Writer Beth E. Lee
I am fascinated with how our minds work. They are, after all, the engine to who we are, what we do and what we want. For the past 8 years I have been researching and learning the basic mechanisms of our brains and trying to answer the two burning questions in life, what do I want and how do I get it? Now, after a difficult battle with post natal depression, the experience of living in 5 different countries, and acquiring a Post Graduate Certificate in Psychology and Neuroscience, I am ready to engage the world with my learnings and ideas on how I believe we can get what we want in all aspects of life.
It was my previous 20 years of corporate content experience, receiving a BA in English and an MBA in Marketing, that got me involved and fully engaged in the ever changing research and writing world. And this past experience has given me the confidence to write and make The Want Gap series my important.
Today, along with writing The Want Gap book, I am continuing to study Psychology and Neuroscience in Mental Health at Kings College London and will begin work on the next book in The Want Gap series, The Want Gap for Health.
I love talking about what makes us who we are and hearing about what YOU have experienced in either getting or not getting what you want, so please feel free to reach out to me with any questions, queries or just to say hello: beth (at) thewantgap.com
It all started so wonderfully...
I married the most amazing man, picked up my life and moved halfway around the world from Boston, USA, to Sydney, Australia. Back then I was carefree with only a couple of boxes of possessions. I had myself to look after and only me to think about. When I arrived in Australia it was a challenge, but a fun challenge, to understand the culture and country I was going to call home. For four years my husband and I travelled, learned and soaked in new experiences, building our lives as a couple.
And then one day it happened. My husband called it the frying pan moment. It was the day I came home from work and announced (as if I were holding a frying pan over his head) that I wanted to have a baby. That was all I wanted… a baby. And what do you need to have a baby? Not much, I thought. Just an income, a healthy body, a relationship, and a brain to get through it all.
It would be perfect. I was a success, after all. I’d worked for more than 15 years in my industry and hit the pinnacle of my career, so it wouldn’t be that difficult to take a year off and get back into it. And hubby won’t have to worry, I’ll be home with the baby, taking him or her to coffee mornings, networking and keeping my hand in the industry while wearing two-inch heels and loving my little bundle of joy. Surely after a year I’d have a handle on the whole baby thing, I’d be back to looking fabulous, making top dollar, traveling the world and living the life of my dreams. Besides, just like everything else in my life, I’ll follow my way of life and make a list, create a strategy and then GO! I even called it my list-strategy-go process. My expectations were there and finally my life was coming to the point I had prepared for, in my mind.
It was 2pm on a Tuesday in September 2009, a week after I’d been admitted to hospital, when I brought home a beautiful baby boy. All the getting pregnant, being pregnant and mother-to-be planning (my list-strategy-go method) had come together. I walked into my beautiful terraced house in Sydney sat down and looked into the eyes of this little human we had created. I remember gently holding this precious little life, scared to move too quickly as he might break. I remember sitting on the couch, holding this little thing, watching my husband bringing in my bags from my week long stay in hospital and finally closing the door to the outside world. And all I remember was feeling the tears run down my face and thinking “oh fuck.” My life began to fall apart.
Continue reading the preface of The Want Gap here.