All I want for Christmas is...
It's that time of year again when everyone asks the kids, "what do you want for Christmas?" or "What did you ask Father Christmas for?" And because no one has asked me what I want this Christmas, I put the question out on Facebook to see what my friends and family are thinking.
Peace, Love, Happiness, Harmony
These were the top answers. Not a new car or a new wardrobe. To me, it seemed like people were expressing their inner thoughts and their inner identities - their core values vs telling me what they wanted. These are things you want to satisfy at your core. So most people haven't satisfied their core values?
The thing with core values, is, they are you. They are the rules you live you life by and they are things you are looking to seek and satisfy first. But how many of us are actually living BY them and looking at all of their core values together as a team to make sure we are living the best life we can?
I got what I Wanted for Christmas
This year, I am even more grateful than usual. My husband is no longer working in the middle east and has 'come home'. The grandparents (my parents) are alive and well. Both kids are healthy and happy. But most importantly, I am finally on a path to becoming who I want to be.
This wasn't because I was given a "gift" to change my mindset. Or given anything in physical nature, for that matter. Instead I was given words of comfort, appreciation, acknowledgement, and most importantly support to pursue what I believe is important.
This holiday season, I finally had a chance to spend some quality time with a very special friend. Someone who shares my values, my outlook, my interests. She gave me so much inspiration that I my brain continually forges new synapses every time I think of our discussions. I'll be writing more about her and our connection later on the blog.
What was amazing about our meet up, was not only our unexpected similar experiences, but our similar connections to the world. She pointed me to a fun website, which took me a bit by surprise, called The 5 Love Languages. To be honest, I was a bit skeptical even looking at the website! But once I went, took the free test, and told her my outcome, I knew we had forged a friendship that would last a lifetime. She and I have the same love language.
What's Your Love Language?
On the website, The 5 Love Languages, you'll learn how the languages are defined.
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
Like many personality tests or psychology tests I find these a great resource for affirmation. They are there to help make sure your outward thoughts and messages are reflective of your core values. I would say that, as my two languages are Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch.
What I took away from this was not only my own affirmation, but knowing this can help you, help others. If you know someone else's language, you can offer help and support gently, almost subconsciously.
I can't tell you the number of times my friend put her hand on my knee when I was talking with her, providing that all important physical touch while offering words of affirmation. She made me feel whole. Try it with your loved one, your children or a close friend. It's very powerful.